Friday, 17 December 2010

Forgiveness - a Christmas Gift to Yourself


Hiya,

I was made aware of this beautiful video via www.selfgrowth.com and it reminded me that most of the world's troubles could be erased if we could just find the courage to forgive. Not only those that have harmed us, insulted us, rejected us, disappointed us, or hurt us in any other way but also ourselves.

When we let go of the hurt feelings towards ourselves or someone else a huge weight will be lifted from our shoulders. The burden of resentment can cripple us emotionally but also on a physical level. Think about the tension we hold when we allow resentment and anger, mistrust etc. to reside inside of us. Let it go. Give yourself a new future to live into. Give yourself the gift of feeling lighter, happier and calmer. Holding on will not help you or anyone else.

Let's all give ourselves the gift of forgiving this Christmas and start 2011 afresh.

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

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http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Monday, 29 November 2010

Can you learn from anyone?

Hiya,

I did a tweet the other day:

"Thought for today: Imagine everyone on earth is a guardian sent to help you learn something and you're the only one really here! Interesting?"

And it got me thinking, whether you believe in guardian Angels or are an atheist or even if your jury is well and truly still out...if you just consider this as a thought experiment would it change things?

Of course we've all been influenced by and learned from our parents, our siblings, friends, neighbours, aunts and uncles etc. in some good ways and in some not so good ways - I'm sure we all remember saying something like:
"When I grow up I'm not gonna do that to my kids." - for instance.

But what about all the other people in our lives, the transient work acquaintances, the bus driver, the stranger at the coffee shop etc. Not to mention the guy who cut in on you whilst driving to work, or the kid that bullied you at school.

If for a moment you HAD to think of something you learnt from any of these people, in any of the circumstances you found yourself in with them, could you? Is it possible even NOT to learn something, I mean if you get bullied at school you learn to stay out of the way of those people, or you learn to read their body language or you learn to be funny so they don't pick on you.

I think, as we grow up we lose the ability to learn from these exchanges. yeah, the positive ones are OK - even then most people won't incorporate what they've learned into any type of positive self improvement, but the negative experiences are usually relegated to the basement filed under 'chalk up to experience'.

So my own personal challenge is to TRY and learn something from every experience good or bad - try to actually be aware that I'm searching for the lesson. Maybe I'll learn something interesting just in the looking.

If you liked this post please browse the blog as there are many other thought provoking posts, pictures and videos here.

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Thursday, 25 November 2010

21 Words that could change your life.



OK - I know the video is titled 20 words but I thought there was one word missing.
Below I've listed the words and the one I think is missing is 'ACT' for without Action nothing can change.

Hope you find it inspiring - I did. Here are the 21 Words:

Begin, Touch
Imagine, Forgive
ACT, Pray (or be thankful)
Laugh, Hope
Believe, Choose
Seek, Appreciate
Play, Give
Trust, Read
Listen, Write
Create, Release
Connect

Please take the time to browse the other posts and feel free to leave a comment.

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Thursday, 18 November 2010

Are You Trying To Be Someone You're Not?



OK - go get the tissues!

Yep, this is an inspiring and moving video of a Dog raised to be one thing who turned out to be something quite different.

It got me thinking that maybe a lot of us are trying real hard to be something when actually we should BE something quite different. Do you sometimes feel that you're doing what you're doing in order to impress someone else? Do you feel that sometimes you're not being YOU? Do you long to figure out WHO you are?

Then let this video inspire you today to take a good look at that. Take some time to be still, to be quiet, to give yourself a chance to just think and feel. Who are You? Somewhere inside you know the answer to that question and it's about time you found out the answer.

Make yourself proud and BE who you are. You only have one life someone once said, this is not a rehearsal. Start being YOU today!

And lastly I must mention I first saw this video on:
www.greatest-inspirational-quotes.com
so please take the time to check that blog out - it has a lot of inspiring stuff on it, well worth a look.

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Tuesday, 9 November 2010

Get Happy In The Now

Hiya,

We've all been on a journey right?
I bet we've all had those journeys that drag on longer than they should. Either the train is late or the plane is delayed or when you get where you're going and you grab a taxi - there's terrible traffic. Frustrating isn't it?

Have you ever set off on a journey expecting those kind of challenges in advance because, hey that always happens to you!

It happens to me. Rushing around trying to get from A to B to get everything done that day.

Funny thing though, when I go on holiday that all changes. I look forward to the journey. I take some good books on holiday so everytime there's a delay of some kind I say to myself: "Great, I can read a bit more of my book."

Dull?

Not at all, I see the journey as 'part' of the holiday so I enjoy it. As soon as I set off from my home I'm in holiday mode. Last year me and my other half went to Kefalonia - 3 hour flight. Took us 22 hours to get there including flying to an airport on a military base on the mainland, then taking a 2 hour coach journey to the coast, then a 1 hour wait for the ferry, a 2 hour ferry journey, a 1 hour wait for the next coach, then an hour and half coach journey to the final destination.

As tiring as it was it actually turned out to be a great part of the holiday. We read a lot, we met a lot of new people (amazing how easy it is to connect with people going through the same challenge), and we saw other parts of Greece we wouldn't have with a straightforward journey.

What's the point?

Life is our biggest, longest journey. Take the time to enjoy the journey rather than just being concerned with the destination.

Enjoy the journey.

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Sunday, 7 November 2010

Embrace Your Inner Girl.

Hiya,

This is an inspirational video for all the girls, guys, women and men out there.

Enjoy...



for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Friday, 5 November 2010

Know when to give up.

Hiya,

Yeah, I know - you're not supposed to give up!

Winston Churchill once said, whilst giving advice to a hall full of University graduates:
"Never ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever Give up!"

I think he was trying to say 'keep moving' - keep trying, keep working towards your dreams and goals.
But, at some point we all try things and then find either we don't really want to do that or we find that it's not as rewarding as we first thought. At this point we can decide 'well, I have to keep at it cos I'm not supposed to give up' OR 'OK, that didn't work, what else can I try?'

There is a difference.

We've all heard the saying: "There's no use flogging a dead horse!"
And trying to continue with something that simply isn't working for you or is not rewarding enough for you to keep on with is 'flogging that dead horse'.

Allow yourself to understand the difference - you'll feel it. When you wake up one day and say to yourself "I'm fed up trying this route." - go look for another route.

Whatever you do - keep moving, even if you trip or stumble you'll still be moving forward.

That to me is Not Giving Up.

What do you think?

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Thursday, 4 November 2010

Ridiculously Cute...


Apparently Scrooge
hated Christmas
even as a kid!

:)

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Tuesday, 2 November 2010

Are You Living In A Parallel Universe?

Hiya,

Watched an interesting documentary on YouTube (link below) about the theory of parallel universes.
The concept is, at present, that our universe could be one of an infinite number of universe 'bubbles' slooshing around like a giant foam, forever multiplying in the fabric of empty space.

Where this gets interesting on a philosophical level is that IF there are an infinite number of universes there must be an infinite number of possible scenarios. One of which could be an exact replica of this universe, with an exact replica of You and of Me. In that alternate universe we could be doing completely different things. One tiny change in our circumstances or behaviour could have had massive consequences for how our lives are panning out.

Of course, if there is one possible alternate universe there must be (by definition of infinite) an infinite number of alternative universes. One where you are the president of the USA, one where you are a homeless person in Mongolia and every other version you can possibly think of. In fact every time you had the opportunity to make a decision one way or the other there would be a universe for each.

What on earth has this got to do with being inspired I hear you ask.

Well, my question today is: Why not decide TODAY which universe You want to live in? Decide today that YOU are going to create those tiny differences in your life that take you to where you could be in one universe, and make it happen in THIS universe. Wow, that means you can be and do Anything. If it's not only possible or probable but definitely happening somewhere - why not make that somewhere HERE? Make this universe the one where you succeed and get what you want and where you can BE who you want.

I don't know about you but I have a great feeling just thinking about this new possibility.

Here's the link to the programme: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z7SDrj4Tjvk&feature=related

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Tuesday, 26 October 2010

Thought for today...

Hiya,

Here's a quick thought for today relating to the video below...

IF money is NOT your motivator right now - what is? What would get you up in the morning excited and full of energy?
If your present boss or set of circumstances (if you're your own boss), allowed you to get up tomorrow and pursue any activity - what would it be?

If there were no barriers, if you could wake up anywhere in the world, and you were fully equipped to do whatever it is you wanted - what would it be?

Love to hear about it

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

Do You Know Your Motivators?

Hiya,

OK - this video is absolutely eye opening. If you thought you knew what your motivators well you might be in for a surprise.
I urge you to watch this video today - before you do anything else. Then go get a cup of tea or coffee and sit for a while and think about it.

My mind is going about a hundred miles an hour right now after watching it myself...



Would love to hear what you thought of it.

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Thursday, 21 October 2010

How To Get What You Want

Hiya,

Bold title!

I did this little exercise the other day and found it quite revealing.
I decided to list all the things I like to do - all of them.
Then I marked them 1 - 10, 1 being I really didn't like it or found it boring, 10 being it's the best thing to do in the world. (OK - keep it clean!)
After looking at the list and scores I then created another column called "If I had more time". Under that I rescored everything on the list eg: originally I had Playing guitar scored as 4, but in the "If I had more time" column I scored it 6 because I'd like to do more of it if I could. If I had time to take lessons and get better I'd enjoy it more.

So what's the point I hear you ask?

The point is, after looking at both columns I could see what I liked doing most, and more importantly what I was doing most of but NOT enjoying. Now using this list I can make a more informed decision as to how I'd like to spend my spare time.

Below is a list of some of the things that might appear on your own list if you decide to make one - just to get you started.
Would love to hear how you got on with it.

Here you go:
Writing
Playing an instrument
Socialising
Walking the dog
Playing with the kids
Working
Blogging
Tweeting
Reading
Dancing
Inventing stuff
Charity work
Teaching
Yoga
Painting
Travelling
Cooking
Sleeping
Hobbies
etc.


As with all things - if you feel inspired by this idea...do something, take action, make a change - TODAY!

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Wednesday, 20 October 2010

Mediocrity or media-ocracy - which are you suffering from?

Hiya,

Quick little thought for today:
Are you suffering from mediocrity or media-ocracy?
One is living a life of unfulfilled passions, of boredom, of lack of energy or get up and go, the other is being so distracted by the media in all it's guises that you don't leave time for introspection. No time to look at what YOU really want to do with your life.

It's so easy to be influenced by 'the economic downturn' or 'the war on terror' or 'the latest Harry Potter film' etc. etc.
I heard yesterday that even Lady GaGa's latest video had 10 - yes 10! product placements in it. We can't even enjoy music these days without being bombarded by subliminal messages to 'shop'.

So, if you are suffering from either or both mediocrity and media-ocracy make today the day you STOP! Make today the day you decide to turn everything off, to forego any and all distractions and just allow yourself to experience YOU. Go for a walk in the park or the woods if you can, do a bit of star gazing, read something inspirational or close your eyes and listen to some soothing music.

Get back in touch with YOU - today.

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Tuesday, 19 October 2010

Do You Use Your Imagination?

Hiya,

Read this blog post by Bob Proctor (one of the stars of The Secret) and had to put it here:

"Have you ever wondered how children can sit through replays of their favorite Lion King or Little Mermaid video? It amazes me that they’ll watch the same show every day without a single complaint or request for something new. What’s more amazing, though, is that adults do the very same thing with their days. The majority of men and women play “movies” in their heads day after day relentlessly focusing on past events, most of which are unpleasant and disturbing experiences.

If they’re actually able to stop their contemplation of past events, then they allow impressions of their current surroundings and recent results to govern their thoughts. If they contemplate the future it is usually by worrying about it, or wishing that something better might come along. Then they wonder why bad things keep happening to them, or why they never rise above the issues and obstacles in their lives. While it is true that people are free to think anything they please, as long as they remain set in their ways, there is very little that can be done to change the unpleasant experiences that keep cropping up in their lives.

Recently, the study of the mind and its veritable unearthly power is at last taking its proper place in modern civilization. Proper use of the mind and its various faculties will give you anything you choose – but the emphasis here is on the word “proper.” To move in this direction requires study and focused, consistent effort with a good measure of creativity stirred in.

Just as the oak tree develops from the gene that lies within the acorn and a bird develops from the gene that lies asleep in the egg, so too will your achievements grow from the organized plans that first begin with your imagination. An image in your mind is the first stage of the creative process in life. From your imagination your visions and plans arise.

In his best selling book, Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill wrote:

“You will never have a definite purpose in life; you will never have self confidence; you will never have initiative and leadership unless you first create these qualities in your imagination and see yourself in possession of them.” He went on to say, “… imagination is the most marvellous, miraculous, inconceivably powerful force the world has ever known.”

There is a concept called “Fantasy - Theory - Fact.” The premise underlying this concept is that everything has its origination in the form of Fantasy, which some adventurous souls dare turn into a theory and then boldly turn into fact. Give this serious thought for a moment. The idea of moon landings, communicating by email, traveling on jets, cellular phones or wearing synthetic garments was, a very short time ago, sheer fantasy. Today, they are considered commonplace. Your marvelous mind has factors that you can, with little effort, develop to use to improve the quality of life, not just for yourself, but for human kind. Imagination is one of those creative faculties. The individuals who were responsible for the conception and creation of the email, cell phones and any of the thousands of modern conveniences we enjoy today had a highly developed imagination. Furthermore, they were not easily influenced by the opinions of the masses, the naysayers who historically have criticized
and ridiculed anything they do not understand. These pioneers used their mental faculties to fantasize, to build wild and wonderful pictures in their mind.

Then, holding their thought with their will, they watched their fantasy unfold into a theory and then into fact. They seemed to have an innate awareness that if they could visualize it, they could do it.

Use this power to let your mind play. Fantasize a much better life than you presently enjoy. Draft your future with imagination, ponder and calculate with intelligence and awareness, then knit it carefully with care. Next, devise paths and find tools to help get you there. Commit to reach new goals. The only barrier separating you from your goal is ignorance – ignorance of how simple, and simply powerful, your mind really is."

To learn more about Bob visit: www.bobproctor.com

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Monday, 18 October 2010

Sterilise Drug Addicts?

Hiya,

Ok, so the title is a bit contentious!

I heard this debate on the radio today and I have to say I could see both points of view.
The idea came about by a woman who was taking care of 4 out of 8 children that belonged to a drug addict. The mother was basically on a rollercoaster ride to self destruction and breeding her way there at a rate of knots!

So she started a campaign to pay $200 to addicts that volunteered to be sterilised. Of course, what addict would turn down $200, so it seemed a little like a turkey shoot. Apparently there is to be a rigorous procedure in place to ensure that the volunteers are councelled before making the final decision. But where does it lead?

The counter argument is obviously, this campaign is 'telling' people 'how' to live their lives. If someone wants to go and wreck their own lives and have a horde of kids on the way they have every right to in a free society - don't they? Also, what about the possibility that the addict could turn their life around in the future and find themselves unable to have kids because of a decision they may have made in a drug haze years previous.

Hmm, not an easy one - certainly when you see the damage caused to these kids that are living with addict parents or more likely singular parent.

So, what do you think, would love to hear what you have to say.

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Friday, 15 October 2010

Thought for today...

Hiya,

This is more a quote for today rather than a thought although, it should definitely provoke a thought - or two!

"The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your
problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the
ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own
destiny.
" ~Albert Ellis

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

12 Areas Of Balance by Vishen Lakhiani

Hiya,

Here's the video for those, take the time to actually do this excercise and if you get time leave a comment sometime with how it made you feel.



for now

Be Inspired

Stu

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http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Learn the Concept of Bending Reality!

Hiya,

Just watched this interesting video from Vishen Lakhiani with an interesting idea about how to get what you want in life.

It's based on switching the order of the 4 main questions we ask:
How? When? Why? What?

Into:
What...is it I want in my life?
Why...do I want that?

Then the How and When will kind of take care of themselves.

Take a look here:
http://www.finerminds.com/awesome/video-3

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Stu

Wednesday, 13 October 2010

How to let your true desires manifest

Hiya,

Today's post comes from Noah St. John author of 'The Secret Code of Success'
I'm on his subscriber list and am actually reading the book at the moment.

He sent this email thru to me today and I just had to put it on my blog as at the bottom there are some very revealing questions to ask ourselves - the answers to which could... could lead you to think a little more clearly as to what you actually want to do in your life.

So with no further ado...


"Desire was the first seed of mind."— The Rg Veda

One of the fundamental symptoms of success anorexia is not letting your true desires manifest.

Now, if you don't let your TRUE desires manifest, that means by definition that you what you have manifested is NOT your true desires.

Why does this happen? And more importantly, how can we get out of this costly, painful trap?

To answer these questions, let's go back to the beginning...

What is a DESIRE? The word desire comes from the Latin words meaning "of the lord" or "of the father".

Every action we take has its basis in a DESIRE - what I often call your Why-To's.

But many people are uncomfortable with that. They equate desire with "sex, passion, lust, greed or envy."

We've been practically brainwashed to believe that "desire" is equal to "sin."

But what is a sin? Simply put, a sin is a desire being expressed incorrectly, by a person who mis-understands his relationship to the universe and to other people.

Take greed, for example. Greed is one of the more popular sins - if you don't believe me, turn on the news or open a newspaper. You'll see examples of human greed everywhere.

Greed is the desire to gain or get more for yourself, but expressed incorrectly. In other words, the greedy person believes that he can get ahead by taking from others without giving back.

A thief is a good example of a person expressing greed. A thief takes from others and does not give back. That's why theives are punished when caught.

However, let's look at the desire behind the sin.

The desire was to gain, to win, to get ahead. Is there anything wrong with those desires themselves?

NOT AT ALL.

It is the most natural, correct thing in the world for a human being to want to grow, express themselves more, to win, and get ahead (improve your station in life).

However - and this is the key - if we express that desire to get ahead by taking without giving commensurate Value back, the universe will NOT support us. (See my hilarious, and embarrassing, office supplies story in Chapter 9 of The Secret Code of Success.)

That's why a thief is considered a criminal. It is incorrect in the eyes of the man (and the eyes of the universe) to TAKE without GIVING commensurate Value in return.

Let's look at another example. Suppose you and I want to start a business. What would be the only way for our business to grow and prosper?

Exactly: to provide products or services t o others that benefit THEM and improve their lives.

Do you consider this to be the activity of a "greedy" person: working to improve the lives of other people?

Me neither.

Therefore, the first thing you have to do to let your true desires manifest is to get over the idea that your desires are "bad" in the first place!

This may be one of the most challenging things we face when overcoming success anorexia. However, when seen correctly, it is also one of the simplest things to do.

So now that you know your desires are natural and OK, what do you do next?

Simply, identify what your true desires ARE.

Do you realize that most people don't even know what they really want?

Answer these questions to begin to let your true desires manifest:

1. I'd like to learn...
2. I'd love to learn...
3. If I could learn more about anything, it would be about...
4. I've always been fascinated by...
5. I'd really like to know more about...

Then, answer these questions:

1. Who could teach me about ______?
2. Who do I know who knows something about _______?
3. Where could I learn more about _________?
4. How can I attract people who know about _________ into my life?
5. Where are these people now? What are they doing and how can I help give them more of what they want?

Next to the question, "Who could teach me about ____ ?" (something you'd really like to learn), complete this sentence:
"What can I offer them that would cause them to feel really good about teaching me what I want to learn?"

Think about it. What do most people go around doing? Most people are trying to get everyone else to listen to them, agree with them, see things from their point of view, or give them something while giving nothing in return.

It's like the people who come up to me at seminars and start telling me their life story, without any regard for the line of people behind them.

I LOVE meeting people and always get a kick out of seeing my subscribers at live events.

It's just that when someone starts going on and on, with no regard for the other people around, that I start to feel like someone is TAKING without giving back.

(Don't be that guy.)

What if you turned that around, and, instead of expecting people to want to give to you, began asking, "What Value can I bring to YOU?"

I know it's counterintuitive, but do it anyway!

If you just keep on doing it, people will one of two things: really mistrust you (because they're too cynical), in which case you don't want to have them in your life anyway; or come to like, trust, even admire and respect you.

We make life so hard on ourselves. Make it EASY on yourself by giving people what they really want.

And you will find that your TRUE desires - which are, I'll bet, to help, serve, inspire, and bless people - will begin to manifest more easily, quickly, and elegantly than you've ever let yourself imagine."

______________________________________________

I can't duplicate Noah's writing here without at least putting a link to his website in return (no it's not an affiliate link!), so if you want to find out more about Noah and his work click here:
http://www.successclinic.com

If you answer those questions and they're not too personal, I'd love to see your answers - leave a comment maybe.

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Monday, 11 October 2010

What Excuses Are You Using?

Hiya,

Here's a quick thought for today inspired by a short video I watched this morning (link at the bottom).
Basically, if you aren't experiencing 'exactly' what you want in life, and let's face it - even the most fortunate people are still searching for something more, then what's stopping you?

If your reply is: "Nothing, I'm working my way to all of my goals." then great, that's amazing!

But...

If your answer started something like: "Well, the thing is..." or "I would if only..." or "I don't have_____ so I can't..." then maybe this is your excuse.
What if for every single reason (excuse) somebody could show you a successful person who overcame that particular barrier, over and over, for every reason you could think of - what would you be left with?
No more excuses!
Then what?
Then you'd either have to throw your hands up and say "I can't be bothered" or you'd have to get off your arse and use one of those examples as your inspiration to get on with something.

So, I'm going to ask myself what my excuses might be in relation to certain goals I've not yet accomplished.

If you have the time and the inclination to watch the video (don't worry, there's no pitch fest on it!) then click this link:

http://www.finerminds.com/awesome/video-2

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Thursday, 7 October 2010

The Blame Game cont...

Hiya,

Here's the conclusion of yesterday's post...

"We control in the name of love. We do it because we're 'only trying to
help.' We do it because we know best how things should go and how
people should behave. We do it because we're right and they're wrong.
We control because we're afraid not to do it. We do it because we don't
know what else to do. We do it to stop the pain. We control because we
think we have to. We control because we don't think. We control because
controlling is all we can think about. Ultimately we may control
because that's the way we've always done things. Tyrannical and
dominating, some rule with an iron hand. . . . Others do their duty
behind a costume of sweetness and niceties, secretly going about their
business--other people's business."

Two of the keystone elements in all of this codependency is, according
to Beattie, "Suffering people's consequences for them" and "Solving
people's problems for them." In other words, there is a real quid pro
quo in cookie sharing, and it too is at least somewhat based on
codependent patterns.

My friend gave up her codependent behavior and threw all of her cookies
away. She chose to become self-empowered and has made wonderful strides
in the process. If you asked her, she would tell you life is a miracle,
and she is very happy today. Still, her sister, with whom she has
always been very close, has not budged. Her sister carries all the
cookies she can and spends nearly every moment sharing them. Despite
soft approaches at trying to turn on a light in the sister's head, my
friend now finds herself in that place where many who refuse to play
these games eventually arrive. It is hard to change when those you love
the most are fixed in ways that steal your power. My friend has decided
that the next time her sister plays the blame game, she will say
something to end this behavior. You see, when you stop saving your
cookies and get on with taking responsibility for everything in your
life, your life improves. When that happens, you lose any and all
desire to be a cookie keeper."

Once again, if you want to find out more about Eldon Taylor go here:
http://www.eldontaylor.com
and for some Free subliminal audios go here:
http://www.innertalk.com/mp3.html#free

Totally fascinating stuff!

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Wednesday, 6 October 2010

The Blame Game

Hiya,

Got this through on a newsletter I'm subscribed to from Eldon Taylor. He's a fascinating bloke and has a lot of insightful thoughts. Hope you enjoy...

"There are those who cling to their "right" to blame. I have a friend in
South Africa who is a lie detection examiner. He has a model I like. He
calls it something else, but we'll call it the "bad-luck fortune
cookies" game. So, this is the story of these special cookie
collectors. They go through life collecting all the cookies they can.
Riding on the escalator of life, they will even jump high in the air to
catch one, just so they can put it in their backpack of life experience
and share it later. And share they do. Each evening, whether at home or
in the pub, on the telephone or via e-mail, they tell their friends all
about the cookies of the day. These sharings go like this:

First Person: "Do you know what happened to me today? The clerk in the
gas and grocery would not take my credit card because I left my purse
at work with my identification in it; and she knows me. Heck, she sees
me nearly every day--but she is a real grouch anyway." Second Person:
"That sucks, but do you know what my boss said to me today? He informed
me that I was always late from lunch and told me in no uncertain terms
that I would either be on time or lose my job. He knows that the
traffic is horrible at lunch, and he's always gone more than an hour. I
should just tell him to stuff it!" Third Person: "Your day was nearly
as bad as mine. I had a damn cop stop me for nearly nothing. Everyone
in traffic was changing lanes, and just because I cut in front of him,
he gave me a ticket. That's my third one this year, and my insurance
costs are going to go through the roof as a result. These damn cops
should be out catching criminals, not honest tax-paying citizens."
First Person: "Life sucks. Is your husband still being a jerk? Oh, but
you know, speaking of insurance rates, my insurance company canceled my
insurance just because I was late with their payment. Then the idiot
that ran into me--well that led to a fine for my not having insurance.
And on top of that, they blamed me for the accident, and it wasn't my
fault!"

By now you get the idea. These people gather to share their cookie
stories, and that is largely what their social life is all about. If
you want to have some fun, step up to the cookie keepers and point out
how wonderful life is. You might even explain the blame game and cookie
keeper philosophy, but make sure you have a plan for a quick retreat.
Cookie keepers choose, whether or not they want to admit it, to hold
tightly to the blame game. An otherwise productive and joyful life is
thrown away in exchange for the "Don't you feel sorry for me?"
exchanges. That is another part of the cookie keeper game. To belong to
their group, you must be willing to be understanding and sympathetic.
It's okay to top the cookie of another with a more unpleasant cookie of
your own but not if you fail to recognize the poor, picked-on nature of
the other cookie keeper.

A dear friend of mine grew up in a codependent family relationship, one
of those Melody Beattie so aptly defines in her books such as
Codependent No More. It's the relationship most of us know something
about, for we have heard many of those conditional statements growing
up. They are ones that go like this: "If you loved me, you would ____.
If you had any respect for me, you would not ______. I did this for
you, is it too much to expect _________ from you? I think if you cared
about me, you would______." And so forth. You fill in the blanks.
Beattie sets out several criteria for recognizing codependence. In her
words, "Codependents are the people who consistently, and with a great
deal of effort and energy, try to force things to happen:"

In order to keep these posts easily readable I'll post the concluding part tomorrow.

In the meantime if you'd like to find out more about Eldon Taylor and even download some Free subliminal audios go here:

http://www.innertalk.com/mp3.html#free

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Saturday, 2 October 2010

Wise words from Neale

Hiya,

Today is an extract from Neale Donald Walsch's weekly bulletin.
There's a link at the end if you want to visit and sign up to receive it, I find it always has something of interest or learning in it.
This one that came through today was a great example, something for everyone to learn in here - hope you enjoy.

"Our discussion today has to do with the Five Natural Emotions. These are: grief, anger, envy, fear, and love. And within these, also, there are two final levels: love and fear.

While the five natural emotions include love and fear, these two are the basis of all emotions. The other three of the five natural emotions are outgrowths of these two.

Ultimately, all thoughts are sponsored by love or fear. This is the great polarity. This is the primal duality. Everything, ultimately, breaks down to one of these. All thoughts, ideas, concepts, understandings, decisions, choices, and actions are based in one of these. And, in the end, there is really only one.

Love.

In truth, love is all there is. Even fear is an outgrowth of love, and when used effectively, expresses love. You may ask, "Fear expresses love?" And the answer is, in its highest form, yes. Everything expresses love, when the expression is in its highest form. Does the parent who saves the child from being killed in traffic express fear, or love?

"Well, both, I suppose," you might say. "Fear for the child's life, and love -- enough to risk one's own life to save the child."

Precisely. And so here we see that fear in its highest form becomes love . . . is love . . . expressed as fear.

Similarly, moving up the scale of natural emotions, grief, anger, and envy are all some form of fear, which, in turn, is some form of love.

One things leads to another. Do you see?

The problem comes in when any of the five natural emotions become distorted. Then they become grotesque, and not recognizable at all as outgrowths of love, much less as God, which is what Absolute Love is.

I've heard of the five natural emotions before -- from my wonderful association with Dr. Elisabeth K├╝bler-Ross. She taught me about them.

Grief is a natural emotion. It's that part of you which allows you to say goodbye when you don't want to say goodbye; to express -- push out, propel -- the sadness within you at the experience of any kind of loss. It could be the loss of a loved one, or the loss of a contact lens.

When you are allowed to express your grief, you get rid of it. Children who are allowed to be sad when they are sad feel very healthy about sadness when they are adults, and therefore usually move through their sadness very quickly.

Children who are told, "There, there, don't cry," have a hard time crying as adults. After all, they've been told all their life not to do that. So they repress their grief.

Grief that is continually repressed becomes chronic depression, a very unnatural emotion. People have killed because of chronic depression. Wars have started, nations have fallen.

Anger is a natural emotion. It is the tool you have which allows you to say, "No, thank you." It does not have to be abusive, and it never has to be damaging to another.

When children are allowed to express their anger, they bring a very healthy attitude about it to their adult years, and therefore usually move through their anger very quickly.

Children who are made to feel that their anger is not okay -- that it is wrong to express it, and, in fact, that they shouldn't even experience it -- will have a difficult time appropriately dealing with their anger as adults.

Anger that is continually repressed becomes rage, a very unnatural emotion.

People have killed because of rage. Wars have started, nations have fallen.

Envy is a natural emotion. It is the emotion that makes a five-year-old wish he could reach the doorknob the way his sister can -- or ride that bike. Envy is the natural emotion that makes you want to do it again; to try harder; to continue striving until you succeed. It is very healthy to be envious, very natural. When children are allowed to express their envy, they bring a very healthy attitude about it to their adult years, and therefore usually move through their envy very quickly.

Children who are made to feel that envy is not okay -- that it is wrong to express it, and, in fact, that they shouldn't even experience it -- will have a difficult time appropriately dealing with their envy as adults.

Envy that is continually repressed becomes jealousy, a very unnatural emotion. People have killed because of jealousy. Wars have started, nations have fallen.

Fear is a natural emotion. All babies are born with only two fears: the fear of falling, and the fear of loud noises. All other fears are learned responses, brought to the child by its environment, taught to the child by its parents. The purpose of natural fear is to build in a bit of caution. Caution is a tool that helps keep the body alive. It is an outgrowth of love. Love of Self.

Children who are made to feel that fear is not okay -- that it is wrong to express it, and, in fact, that they shouldn't even experience it -- will have a difficult time appropriately dealing with their fear as adults.

Fear that is continually repressed becomes panic, a very unnatural emotion. People have killed because of panic. Wars have started, nations have fallen.

Love is a natural emotion. When it is allowed to be expressed, and received, by a child, normally and naturally, without limitation or condition, inhibition or embarrassment, it does not require anything more. For the joy of love expressed and received in this way is sufficient unto itself. Yet love which has been conditioned, limited, warped by rules and regulations, rituals and restrictions, controlled, manipulated, and withheld, becomes unnatural.

Children who are made to feel that their natural love is not okay -- that it is wrong to express it, and, in fact, that they shouldn't even experience it -- will have a difficult time appropriately dealing with love as adults.

Love that is continually repressed becomes possessiveness, a very unnatural emotion. People have killed because of possessiveness. Wars have started, nations have fallen.

And so it is that the natural emotions, when repressed, produce unnatural reactions and responses. And most natural emotions are repressed in most people. Yet these are your friends. These are your gifts. These are your divine tools, with which to craft your experience. You are given these tools at birth. They are to help you negotiate life."

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for now

Be Inspired

Stu

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http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Thursday, 30 September 2010

Gay Bishops and Women Priests?

Hiya,

This post might be a bit controversial!

There's been a few things in the news recently about religion and the various doctrines. You know the ones - should women be ordained? can homosexuals be priests? etc. etc.

Here's my opinion:
No, women should Not be ordained because God doesn't think they are equal to men.
And No, gays shouldn't be priests because they are obviously openly sinning against God and what He wants.

Really?

Of course not. Neither of those beliefs are mine, it's just ridiculous isn't it?
Why are the world's 'Great' religions so primitive in their thinking. Oh, a book from a few thousand years ago says so. C'mon guys, think! Unless you're an absolute purist you have to interpret what scripture says and decide if what it's getting at is good or not. If it's not good, probably you're interpreting it wrong.

Is there really a hateful, vengeful, jealous God up there? I don't believe there is. I don't believe per se.
But if I did believe I'd have to believe that it was a peaceful, loving, merciful, all forgiving kind of God.
It always amazes me that so many people 'choose' to believe in a God that behaves more like you'd expect the devil to:
Stone your children to death if they don't believe in me!
Flood the entire planet and all the innocent creatures therein because 'some' people weren't doing as they were told!
Slaughter an entire city (including the innocent babies) because the adults were being decadent!

Hmm, sounds kind of evil really. Talking of which, ever noticed that the bad one in Eden was called Eve? Eve/Evil - coincidence? Oh yeah, that's why women are inferior.

Is it me or is this level of thinking for the intellectually impaired?

The Pope visited recently - he's infallible you know? He doesn't like the idea of women having any say in how the church is run - it says so in the Bible. Basically women should be silent when men are gathered (can't remember which passage that's in), it was pointed out to me by a Jehovah's Witness. A purist that believed that 'every' word in the Bible was true - but understood that of course we can't kill our own children for not believing - they just turn their backs on them instead, send them to coventry - I know I know, Leicester would be bad enough, but Coventry!

So does that sound spiritual, supportive, inclusive, loving? Not in my book, yet so many religions behave this way. A lot of Muslims will turn their backs on any that leave the faith, Scientologists behave the same, as do Mormons and apparently some orthodox Jews. Why? When someone close to you wants to expand their horizon by looking in a different direction why not support them? Maybe they'd change their mind after looking and come back. Not so, once they see how petty your reaction is to them excersing their God given right to free will. It's not like they are gonna have a go at being a drug dealer or hitman, then you'd have a case for being a bit miffed.

It smacks of massive ego attack - "What do you mean what I believe might be wrong?" - phew, what an affront! It seems the more religious a person is the more fragile their belief is. Can you imagine if you had an unshakeable belief, the love of your own child for instance, could anyone say or do anything that might make you question that? Of course not. There'd be no need to get angry if someone said that your love was fake, or untrue, or weak, or a lie. You'd know it wasn't and you'd think they were just being a bit silly for saying it. But say that someone's religion is any of the above and all hell breaks loose! Forget about the 10 commandments, kill the non-believers!! Absolute 'non-sense' - literally!

Even the Archbishop of Canterbury in a recent interview stated:
"Um, the point of praying is to open yourself up to God so God can do what he wants with you."

God, if he/she is there surely doesn't 'want' anything FROM us. What could he possibly want?
That's like saying a lab technician 'wants' bacteria in a petri dish to do this or that, and he'll get angry if they don't. Surely, he just wants to observe?

He (Archbishop) went on to say that his theological beliefs (which contradict his religious ones) couldn't be applied in his present job as they were incompatible! Huh?

Conclusion - I understand we can't throw the baby out with the bathwater where religion is concerned as all around the world incredible people work tirelessly to improve other's lives. But I think it's time that the higher eschelons of religious organisations should be more like their grass roots counterparts - helping people, of all colours and faiths in common unity, rather than squabbling over theological differences.

Mother Theresa would have been the best person in charge - alas, she was just a woman!

Thoughts?

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Tuesday, 28 September 2010

You Choose!

Hiya,

Here in the UK the present coalition government has an awful lot of hard decisions to make to put the economy back on track. I guess it's the same everywhere (except in good 'ole Oz apparently!).

So part of their 'fair play' politics is to get the people involved in what cuts are to be made. Hmmm, we can go on a government website called 'YouChoose' and fiddle with the council tax in our area until we're happy with the cuts we've made to the services that are provided.

Trouble is, and I'm all for taking personal responsibility, BUT, the average person on the street is not qualified to choose where and how to spend billions of pounds of public money any more than they're able by consensus to tell a general how to fight a war. The people in those jobs are trained and qualified to do that. Maybe they're not all as good as each other but surely they're better than most of the rest of us.

This sounds more like some parlour trick of the government making it look like we The People are actually involved in the process. When in actual fact if any of it is taken on board they can blame US if things don't work out too well - well you did make the choices for your area they'll say. These were the cuts you decided on.

No! Government is there to govern, not take a roll call every time they think they might need a few more street cleaners. Can you imagine, the whole bloody thing would come to a standstill.

I say take responsibility - always, so excuse me government, you were voted in to govern, so govern.

What say you - The People?

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Friday, 24 September 2010

Cee Lo - do we or don't we need them?

Hiya,

Yeah, I know that title is a bit confusing.

I read an article yesterday about the soul singer Cee Lo Green. Apparently he has a new single coming out on Oct 4 called, controversially "F**k You!"

Go here if you want to see it: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pc0mxOXbWIU

(Contains swearing - obviously!! - but it's a catchy song!)

The fact that he's not courting conventional airplay with this song is not surprising when you consider the success he's having promoting it via the internet. YouTube alone has had 4.6m views to date (1m in the first 48hrs of release!!), not to mention the other social media platforms.

So the question is: do artists still need the big music companies to promote them anymore?

It seems yes, as Cee Lo is signed to a major label who are funding the video, web hosting, web marketing etc. I mean how much time would it take Cee Lo himself to do all that? So, even though these days it doesn't take a music contract with a major player to get your career on the go, it will need one eventually in order for you to sustain it and grow as an artist. It takes a few years of anybody's time to get the kind of following Radiohead have.

This got me thinking - we think the music giants aren't needed, only to find they are required just in a different way than before. How many other areas of our lives are similar? Parents spring to mind. As teenagers and young adults we think we know it all, our parents are old style and out of touch right? But move on just a few years and experience shows us that our parents are just as valuable to us as they ever were - just in a different way.

I'm sure there are many other ways to adopt that formula in our thinking. Religion for instance, now I'm not a fan of religion per se but, what if my own ideas about religion ie: that it's out of touch, old, irrelevant in today's society etc. are equally skewed. Maybe there is a way for religion to be just as valuable today - just in a different way.

Hmm, food for thought.

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Wednesday, 22 September 2010

Are companies like families?

Hiya,

Me and Em were chatting over lunch today and I thought I'd do a post about it.

We started off debating why companies (especially big ones) treat their employees so badly. We concluded that it's because staff are seen as commodities or even a necessary evil. Since company law decided that the company should be a separate entity on it's own (for the sake of the shareholders) and IT'S best interests should be paramount, it seems that the people that actually make the money FOR the company are just cogs in the machinery.

Of course this was all probably set up to encourage those with money to invest in company ventures with the safetynet of knowing all those working for the company had to put IT before themselves. But now it's gone too far. Too often an employee not coming up to scratch will be fired or 'managed out' and a replacement found. What about training? Oh yeah, there's plenty of training available in order for you to do your job better. But what other training could there be?

On to families, we all think that families are important yada yada, blood's thicker than water blah blah etc. etc. But why?
Most of us have some distant relatives that we don't see very often (weddings, christenings and funerals), and some relatives we don't see at all - maybe have never seen. So, are they part of our family? On a DNA level they are. Are they important to us? Probably no more than a perfect stranger in the street is. So what's all this gumpf about families then?

We concluded it's Not that family is important or that blood creates the bond but rather it's the relationship we have with the individuals within a family. It's the connection we have on a cerebral and spiritual level that creates the importance. We are closer to many of our friends than we are to members of our family - sometimes even close members!

And that's the crux of it - businesses should engage in relationships with their employees. They should treat their staff as connected members of the company family. When one person is not fulfilling their role to the level required, help and training and nurturing should be part of the process. A process to help the employee get what 'they' want. That way they'll be more inclined to go the extra mile in return, and be glad to do so. It's good to help people we care about - it makes us feel good, it strengthens the bonds between us. If companies employed this 'relationship' model across the board they might find a massive driving force for good coming from the grass roots up.

Or I could be talking utter twaddle!! What do you think?

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Tuesday, 21 September 2010

Does affirmation work?

Hiya,

Over the last few years, and especially since the release of The Secret, the Law of Attraction has been gathering followers around the globe. What you think about and focus on is what you get, and all that. Well a lot of people believe in it, although I for one have my own opinion of what's actually going on.

A big part of the process seems to be around 'affirmations'. You know, you get up in the morning and say: "Every day in every way I feel better and better." And your brain is supposed to take that message on board and make it real. Repetition is the key. Then there's 'afformation' - that's the same thing except you use a question to turbo charge the message, because the brain always goes searching for an answer when posed with a question - apparently.
So, your afformation might be: "Why is it that every day in every way I feel better and better?" - then your brain goes off to find answers that fit.

What a load of old horse poop I hear a lot of you say!

Maybe, but consider this observation (not mine), studies on criminal behaviour have found that most criminals started out in their youth, and although at the time they knew it was wrong and actually felt guilty about it, if they continued, they found those feelings fell away to be replaced with thoughts of acceptance. "What else could I do with my background?" or "If you'd had my upbringing you'd have turned out this way." etc. The point being the long term exposure to the idea inevitably makes it acceptable in a criminal's mind.

Maybe this is why it's so hard to rehabilitate a long term habitual criminal.

So if it works in the negative like that surely it can work in the positive too!

In the end what have you got to lose by doing affirmations, afformations, mantras etc.? You could have everything to gain.

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Friday, 17 September 2010

Quote for the day...

Hiya,

I'm reading 'Think and Grow Rich' by Napoleon Hill
and from that here is my quote for today:

"There are no limitations to the mind except those we acknowledge."

And...

"Both poverty and riches are the offspring of thought."

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

Thursday, 16 September 2010

Have you heard your Soul's voice?

Hiya,

Got an email from a lady called Karen Black today, and it asked a really simple but profoundly important question:
"At what age does your soul come calling?"

She quotes the philosopher James Hillman as saying:
“Sooner or later something seems to call us onto a particular path… this is what I must do, this is what I’ve got to have. This is who I am.”

To read the whole thing go to her blog here: http://karenmblack.wordpress.com/

This is such a thought provoking question that I had to blog about it myself. What is my soul calling, what do I reeeeaaally want to be? When did I first hear this calling? If I'm honest, it was probably when I was kid. I loved to make up stories of wonder and mystery back then and it's what excites me still.

I need to put more time into that, we all get soooooo bogged down in the day to day stuff (which is important if we want a roof above our heads) but some of us, probably most of us, need to get better balance in our lives.

Go and read her blog, it's going to get you thinking.

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Saturday, 11 September 2010

Great picture

This is a lovely picture...

Where Time Stands Still (Morning Glory)

Courtesy of Joel Bedford: http://www.flickr.com/photos/jalex_photo/1525171367/

Very Lord of the Rings-esque!

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

Friday, 10 September 2010

Do you have Permission?

Hiya,

I was having my 3rd 'No Hands' massage the other day and the question I was asked in our chat before hand was what would I like to get from the massage? How would I like to feel? And what type of massage would I like? That's the way it works with the 'No Hands' approach - it's much more holistic!
So I answered I wanted to feel more energised, stronger and more invigorated, I mean who wouldn't right? So we decided on a split between a nourishing massage and a release massage. As I lay there and let the somewhat upbeat music engulf me, I consciously relaxed my body in to the bed. Within just a couple of minutes of trying to concentrate on my breathing (as instructed) I found myself seeing the word 'Release' over and over.
My analytical mind started working...release what, yeah, sure I've felt a little tense recently - I've got a lot going on. But it was a little more complex than that. I needed to 'release' something all together deeper. And that's when the word 'Permission' drifted through the periphery and it became a lot clearer.

How many ways do we all hold ourselves back from doing something? But also, how many ways do we keep ourselves from stopping something? And I'm not just talking about the physical acts here. I'm talking about emotional stuff. So what's the permission all about? Well, I decided at the moment that I was going to give myself permission to giveup with something I've been trying for quite a while now (a business thing). When I say giveup, I mean change direction, re-evaluate, put on the back burner etc. And I don't even mean right away, I mean, I have permission to stop doing that thing whenever I want. Guilt free! Without feeling like a failure. Today, tomorrow, in a week or a month or whenever.
And you know what? I immediately felt invigorated to have the weight off, I felt energised by the thought I didn't have to keep slogging away, I could just STOP.

Funny that.

I got just what I wanted. And now, I feel stronger going forward and today I continued with the project a bit further, but I felt a whole lot calmer about it.

What permission could you give yourself today?

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Thursday, 9 September 2010

Derren Brown amazing programme!

Hiya,

Did anyone (in the UK) see Derren Brown's new programme last night?
Amazing inspirational stuff. The vid below is the teaser, and you can see the rest by clicking thru the YouTube links afterwards.
I urge you to watch it even if you hate Derren Brown (like my other half), I think you might just change your mind - a bit. :)



Watch, enjoy, and I'd love to hear what you think, if you can't leave a comment here (this blogger platform is a bit clumsy I know) then just send me an email.

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

Wednesday, 8 September 2010

Albert Einstein on intuition

"The intellect has little to do on the road to discovery. There comes a leap in consciousness, call it intuition or what you will, and the solution comes to you and you don't know how or why..."

Yeah, but are we listening?

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Tuesday, 7 September 2010

You are what you eat - really?

Hi there,

Gandhi once said:
“The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated”

Really?

How are the animals treated in this country, and I don't just mean the ones that are eaten?
How many dog breeders out there actually care for the animals they're breeding? Not many I'd guess, it seems they are just treated as an income generator. Once they are used up, they are disposed of, either in horrendous ways I won't mention or simply 'given' to rescue centres or dog fosterers. (Basically, just get rid of them so I can get a new bitch in to breed with.)

I think there should be some kind of training commitment adhered to by all new dog owners. Maybe they have to complete a government recognised course on dog behaviour and welfare before they get given a license for a dog. Surely that would cut down on the amount of ignorant owners out there that just want a dog as a status symbol or accessory.

This is true of most pets, they're just bred for profit with little or no regard for the welfare of the animal.

That's my rant over with!

Then there's the animals bred for food.
Over the last few years I've noticed many more programmes being made about animal welfare and husbandry that are in the food chain, but how many people really care, especially if it costs more?

A couple of friends I train with were talking recently about finding a new supplier that would sell them 100 chicken breasts for £30!
Think about that, that's 50 chickens for £30. 60p per chicken!
Surely a chick has got to cost a farmer 20p or more right? Then there's feeding it for however many weeks (12 typically) till it's grown - say another 20p each. Then it needs to be transported to the abattoir, killed, butchered, and packed - that's got to cost a minimum of 20p each. So that's 60p in costs so far, not to mention any profit for the farmer. Then the end seller has to market it and deliver it and a make a profit within the remaining 0p per chicken!!!

So how do you think a chicken is raised in a pricing environment like that? Probably not well, probably in one of those cramped windowless barns with their other inmates dying around them and left where they lie.
If the old adage that 'You are what you eat' is true, then anyone consuming these chickens is eating misery, disease, fear and hopelessness. Not what I want on my plate.

Would love to hear your comments.

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Saturday, 4 September 2010

What a 6 year old can teach us...

Hiya,

A friend sent me an email the other day and I thought I would do a post featuring it here:

Title: A Dog's Purpose? (From a 6 year-old).

Being a veterinarian, I had been called to examine a ten-year-old Irish Wolfhound named Belker. The dog's owners, Ron, his wife Lisa, and their little boy Shane, were all very attached to Belker, and they were hoping for a miracle.

I examined Belker and found he was dying of cancer. I told the family we couldn't do anything for Belker, and offered to perform the euthanasia procedure for the old dog in their home.

As we made arrangements, Ron and Lisa told me they thought it would be good for six-year-old Shane to observe the procedure. They felt as though Shane might learn something from the experience.

The next day, I felt the familiar catch in my throat as Belker’s family surrounded him. Shane seemed so calm, petting the old dog for the last time, that I wondered if he understood what was going on Within a few minutes, Belker slipped peacefully away.

The little boy seemed to accept Belker's transition without any difficulty or confusion. We sat together for a while after Belker's Death, wondering aloud about the sad fact that animal lives are shorter than human lives.
Shane, who had been listening quietly, piped up, ''I know why.''

Startled, we all turned to him. What came out of his mouth next stunned me. I'd never heard a more comforting explanation. It has changed the way I try to live.

He said, “People are born so that they can learn how to live a good life -- like loving everybody all the time and being nice, right?”
The 6 year-old continued, “Well, dogs already know how to do that, so they don't have to stay as long.”

Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly.

Remember, if a dog was the teacher you would learn things like:

When loved ones come home, always run to greet them.

Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride.

Allow the experience of fresh air and the wind in your face to be pure Ecstasy.

Take naps.

Stretch before rising.

Run, romp, and play daily.

Thrive on attention and let people touch you.

Avoid biting when a simple growl will do.

On warm days, stop to lie on your back on the grass.

On hot days, drink lots of water and lie under a shady tree.

Be loyal.

Never pretend to be something you're not.

If what you want lies buried, dig until you find it.

When someone is having a bad day, be silent, sit close by, and nuzzle them gently.

ENJOY EVERY MOMENT OF EVERY DAY!

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Sunday, 29 August 2010

The Power of Touch

Hiya,

I had a 'No Hands' massage yesterday, my first massage for about a year!

I would recommend it to anyone purely and simply as a treat to yourself. I used to go when I had an ache or pain somewhere but really it's such a lovely experience I could go all the time. From time to time me and Em will give each other a massage at home and that's really nice and relaxing, but more often than not the bed gets put away in the garage and it's a pain in the neck to get it out, set it up, put the dogs to bed etc. etc.

The lady I saw is called Jane Craddock - her website is listed at the foot here if you're interested, and we had a really interesting chat before and after the massage. It's unlike any other massage I've experienced and thoroughly relaxing. I took away a leaflet which explained in more detail the therapeutic aspect of massage and touch in general. It hypothesised that since we spent the first 9 months of our life in a constant state of being massaged by our mother's body, we crave touch for the rest of our lives.

It becomes so obvious when it's pointed out doesn't it. The first thing we do when we greet someone we know and love is hug them, especially if you haven't seen them for a while. Children (and parents) are comforted by being cuddled all snug and warm. We love to nestle in our partner's arms on the couch and if you have pet mammals you'll find they also crave touch. Think about when you are having an argument with someone, you might find yourself crossing your arms - effectively saying 'I won't touch you now because I'm upset with you.' We shirk the hug of our partner if we are still angry at them thereby withholding our 'touch'.

Think about this for a while and you recognise a multitude of behaviours that all revolve around giving or withholding touch in some way or another.

My challenge to myself and to anyone else interested is to refrain from withholding touch, hug even when angry, even if your pride is saying 'close up' - instead 'open up'. It will make you feel better - guaranteed!

In the meantime treat yourself to a massage and if you're able, treat someone else to a massage - it could be the most therapeutic thing that's happened to them this year!

Jane's website: www.janecraddock.co.uk

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Tony Robbins Breakthrough TV Series

Hiya,

This is great TV, seriously! It's moving, it's compelling but more importantly it's inspirational...



for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Thursday, 26 August 2010

Heard About the Mayonnaise Jar and Coffee?

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar... and the coffee...

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full.

They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls He then asked the students again if the jar was full.

They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a resounding "Yes!"

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the tableand poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling theempty space between the sand. The students laughed.
"Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided,
"I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things. Your family, your children, your faith, your health, your friends, and your favorite passions. Things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter. Your job, your house, and your car. The sand is everything else. The small stuff."

"If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first, the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.
The professor smiled.
"I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend."

I wish I knew who the author was so I could credit them, but I don't! :-/

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Wednesday, 25 August 2010

Other half's blog


Hiya,

If you're into dogs you might enjoy reading my other half's blog here:

<----- (subject of the blog!!)

http://thelittlebeardogblog.wordpress.com/2010/08/18/breakthrough/#comment-57

If you get time take a look.

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

Monday, 23 August 2010

Real Heroes

For those that haven't seen this yet - take 10 minutes to watch this and be inspired beyond belief!



for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

2012 ???

Hiya,

If you've ever wondered about the doom mongers version of what's going to happen in 2012 then watch this short video by Esther Hicks. Makes much more sense!



for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Sunday, 8 August 2010

Human Nature

Hiya,

How often do we hear these days that nobody knows their neighbours? People aren't community spirited like they used to be. Everyone lives behind locked doors yada yada yada.
I suppose it's more to do with the quantity of distractions and the ease with which we can get around compared to say 50 years ago, more than how afraid we are - which is what our media would have us believe. Thugs on every corner, not safe to go out your door, every hoodie has a switchblade blah blah blah!!! Grrr!

50 million TV channels and 4000 new video games available every day, plus a gabillion videos on YouTube. We can hop in our cars and drive to see our friends and families easily (except if you have to use the M25!). All this means we don't 'need' to know who lives next door - right?

Well my faith in human nature is intact.

We rescued a dog, Annie, on thursday evening. Half hour later she slipped her collar and ran like the wind. We are surrounded by fields and farms where we live so the opportunity to hide if you're a terrified canine are boundless. Within half hour of running around the lanes searching we had gathered a small posse of friends and total strangers helping us look. There was nothing in it for any of them besides the bonds of community. They helped us until 1 o'clock in the morning that first night, in total darkness, scrambling through bramble bushes and trudging across horse fields. They continued helping in their own ways the following day and the day after that until eventually we got a lead (excuse the pun) and tracked Annie to a garden that backed on to a farm. All the neighbours of that garden came out to help and eventually she was recued a second time.

This experience, as stressful as it was, has allowed us to reconnect with the people around us. We have made friends with people that we would have walked straight past on the street before hand. And they have friends in us. Never again will I walk past a 'Missing Cat or Dog' poster on a lamp post without reading it and considering what I can do to help. I will endeavour to get more involved in the people around us, in an attempt to add to the glue that binds us all together, whether we are aware of it or not.

Look out of your window, walk down your street, look at the faces of the people in your community. They are more likely to help you in a crisis than they ever are to harm you. Smile at people on the street and say hello, you never know when the opportunity may arise for them to help you or for you to help them.

For now - be safe, be neighbourly and Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Wednesday, 4 August 2010

Inspirational video

Hiya,
Got sent this link to an inspirational video this morning. It's one of those picture movies with a soundtrack and a bunch of quotes to inspire you - you know the ones!
However, this one is exceptional, well worth the 8 minute watch and some of the sculptures featured are pretty incredible too.
Treat yourself and give it a watch...



for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Tuesday, 3 August 2010

Quote for today

Whether you think you can or you can’t, either way you are right.
- Henry Ford

So why not start today 'thinking' that you 'can' - at the very least you'll feel better.

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

Tuesday, 27 July 2010

Getting Inspired

I found another blog/forum about being inspired called: http://beinspiredtoday.ning.com where a lovely lady called Julieanne has obviously spent a lot of time and effort gathering information and aquaintances to help inspire people. This is the post I read today:

"We all know about the power of Gratitude but sometimes in the hustle
and bustle we forget to be in a state of gratitude.

Gratitude brings us out of a feeling of lack and changes our
perspective on the world around us. It is a gentle process that can
shift you in a matter of minutes.

I thought it might be fun to have somewhere to 'put it out there'.
Just choose 5 things that you are grateful for today.

Today I am grateful for

the music I am listening to
the warm weather
good coffee
knowing that I am loved
... and my dishwasher ;)

I feel better already :)

Hope to hear what everyone else is grateful for :)

Many Blessings,

Julieanne"

Good place to start!
Gratitude is the first step to raising your self esteem in many ways,
it reminds us of what and who we have around us. It reminds us we're
not alone and we're not failing no matter what is happening in our
lives. Every one of us can remember something from our past that
seemed bad at the time but on reflection led us to a better place. We
may have broken up with a partner and been devastated only to find a
new love further down the road. We must look back on those experiences with gratitude for they make us who we are today.

If you're going through a tough time right now it's almost impossible to see that this very thing you are going through will lead you to something positive further along in your life.

Find the strength, hope and resilience to
persevere - you'll be glad you did. :)

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Saturday, 24 July 2010

Why Weight Loss Diets Don’t Work!

99% Of Weight Loss Diets Concentrate On Totally
The Wrong Thing And That’s Why They Don’t Work
For The Majority Of People - Do You Know What It Is?

If you’ve ever been on a diet you’ll be familiar with the following:

Calorie counting
Visiting online forums
Joining weight loss classes and support groups
Measuring your waistline daily
Weighing yourself obsessively
Exercising
Checking your BMI (and getting confused!)

The list could go on and on, but one thing is for sure - it didn’t
last did it? Yeah you may have lost a few pounds, maybe even a couple
of stone but sure as night follows day you put most if not all of it
back on.

Now don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of things in the list that
will definitely help you shed pounds, but the reason none of it lasts
is because something is out of whack.

Let’s take a look at some ‘simple’ psychology, ask yourself this question:
When was the last time you wanted to lose something?
Did you answer it? I mean it doesn’t make sense does it? Do you want
to lose your job? Do you want to lose your wallet or purse? Do you
want to lose your friends or your house or your mobile phone or even
your way? No. You don’t like to ‘lose’ stuff - period!

We are programmed to ‘Get’ stuff.
Get a new car, Get a wonderful partner, Get married, Get a great job,
Get a million dollars etc.
So what?
So, maybe this whole ‘losing’ weight concept is backwards, maybe
concentrating on ‘losing’’ weight just goes against the grain, against
the programming. Instead, maybe we should be focusing on ‘Getting’
fitter, Getting healthier, Getting a better shape, Getting happier,
Getting ourselves down the gym or in the pool or on the sidewalk
jogging or even walking - releasing those endorphins, allowing the
serotonin to flood out so we can get a better feeling about ourselves.

Here’s my challenge to all those out there unhappy with their weight
or shape - try refocusing on the positive ‘Getting’ and drop the
negative idea of weight ‘loss’. Try it and see.

Start Eating, Start living and Start Getting what you want in this life!

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Monday, 5 July 2010

Are you feeling stuck?

Hiya,

I was reading a book about scientific anomolies last night - oh yeah, I know how to live! :)
Anyway, talking of waiting for a breakthrough with one such equation he said something I found quite profound:
"When you're feeling really stuck, get ready, you're about to make a great leap forward."

So if you're feeling stuck in any way at the moment, get ready...

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Thursday, 24 June 2010

Do you have a problem?

"You cannot solve a problem
with the same mindset that created it."
- Einstein

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com

Monday, 21 June 2010

Weight Problem Guinea Pig

Hiya,

Today's post is for those out there that might be suffering with a weight issue.
You've probably tried all sorts of diets and fitness regimes in the past but it either doesn't work or the weight simply piles back on.

Ever thought about hypnosis?

Two reasons I ask:
1. I've tried hypnosis in the past for some motivational issues and it absolutely worked 100%.
2. If you could try it risk fr.ee - guaranteed, what would you have to lose (except weight!)?

So, Dr Robert Anthony renowned US hypnotherapist, best selling author etc. etc. wants 500 guinea pigs to try out his program (I'm guessing cos he wants a bunch of great testimonials afterwards), simply go to this link below and take a look, see if you're interested - if not you've only wasted 5 minutes.

If you do end up trying it, come back and leave a comment, I'd love to know how it went.

Here's the link:
http://inspiredzz.zrw1129.hop.clickbank.net

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

PS: Maybe do it with a friend and compare results!

Thursday, 17 June 2010

FREE Stuff!

So here’s the thing - I’m not gonna try and inspire you
today. I just want you to take advantage of a giveaway
on a website that’s offering over 300 products at
absolutely zero cost!!
(One of which might inspire you.)

In just a few minutes last night I downloaded several
items, one of which was a book that I’ve been meaning
to read for years now - Think and Grow Rich, by
Napoleon Hill - a classic book of self improvement,
written in the 30s and apparently responsible for helping
to make more millionaires than any other book written.

The products being ‘given’ away include:
Stop Smoking
Healthy Eating
Self Hypnosis
Losing Weight
Building Confidence
Improving Business
Meditation

to name just a few.

So what’s the catch?

Each product you click to download will open another
window where they try and sell you something else.
Fair enough. Just scroll to the bottom of the page and they’ll
all have a link or button saying: “No thanks, just give me the gift.”
Click that and you’ll get an email sent to you with a download link.

Don’t worry about being on a ton of email lists because each
email has an unsubscribe button on it, so as soon as you have
the product just unsubscribe (if you want to).
To be honest a couple of the sites I want to remain on their list
for a while to see what they’re like.

So here’s the link to the site - take a browse and I hope you
find something of value there - it won’t cost you anything!!
:)

Here’s the link:
http://selfhelpgiftsgiveaway.com/giveawayevent/go/9674

for now

Be Inspired
Stu

PS: Almost forgot - they pull the offer on July 3rd and it’ll take
you a couple of days to look through everything and download
what you want - so if you’re interested, hurry!

PPS: If you haven't got time right now and you haven't already
- bookmark this blog to make it easier to revisit.

Friday, 11 June 2010

Inspirational quote...

"More powerful than the will to win
is the courage to begin."
- Unknown.

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

Thursday, 10 June 2010

Thought for today

Hiya,

Winston Churchill was once asked what the secret to success was and he apparently replied:
"Never give up. Never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever give up. Never give up!"

Imagine you had a bucket of oysters and were told one had a pearl inside and you decided to find it.
You opened the first but sprained your thumb, you continued and on the fourth you cut your finger, you continued and on the tenth one you twisted your wrist - would you consider stopping?

My guess is no - you would just change the tools you were using.

If you're striving for something and it's not coming, continue, but maybe think about using different tools.
:)

for now

Be Inspired
Stu

Wednesday, 9 June 2010

You'll be happy when...

Hiya,

Ever told someone or even yourself, in one of those quiet moments - "I'll be happy when..." ?

I bet there were a bunch of different endings to that sentence.

"I'll be happy when I get a better job."
"I'll be happy when I find the love of my life."
"I'll be happy when I have the time to...[fill in the blank]"
"I'll be happy when I finally go on holiday."
And probably the most common...
"I'll be happy when I win the lottery."

According to some studies we have a base 'happy' level. Within 12 months of some major event in our lives, good or bad, we resonate back to that base level. If you're one of the lucky ones that hovers rather high on the happiness barometer - well done you! If not, here are a few ways you can increase your happiness on a physiological level.

Certain hormones are known to be responsible for giving us those good feelings:
Serotonin - the happyness hormone, you get a boost from some foods and when you succeed
Oxytocin - the hugging hormone, your body gets a boost of this when you feel loved and comforted
Endorphin - the pain relief hormone, produced when you're under pressure or pain or stress - endorphins allow animals to feel a sense of power and control over themselves that allows them to persist with activity for an extended time.

7 Ways to boost your happiness hormones:

1. Sleep and wake at the same time - get in to a pattern
2. Get some sunshine as soon after waking as possible as sunlight on the retina flicks your serotonin 'on' switch on and your nighttime melatonin 'off' button off.
3. Do at least 30 mins excercise every other day - the physical effort actually produces those hormones!
4. Relaaaaax - take a walk, listen to some soothing music, take along bath, paint a picture or play an instrument or whatever relaxing hobby you might have.
5. LAUGH! Tests have shown that even the anticipation of enjoyment starts to increase your happy hormones.
6. Hug someone - or get a massage - the physical contact itself produces Oxytocin
7. Eat carbs - rice, potatoes, pasta, quinoa, wholegrain bread, cereal.

This last one is debateable as some studies show carbs mixed with the wrong other foods or at the wrong time of day etc. etc. can actually be harmful. If you ask me - if it tastes good - it'll help!! :)

At the end of the day the physiological evidence has a more profound meaning, that our happiness comes from the inside out. We shouldn't rely on outside 'stuff' to determine our 'inside' mood. Although the 7 points above might help increase your feeling of well being a bit, the only real way to find lasting happiness is from finding your life's purpose and then flinging yourself headlong in to that. If you're not sure what that might be - join the queue.

That's for another post.

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

If you like this you'll probably like my other blog:
http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com