Morning, today's blog takes a more serious note simply because I woke up thinking about an email newsletter I used to get from a couple of relationship coaches Paul & Layne Cutright. Oh yes, when I was wandering in the wilderness I did a bit of soul searching - as you do! Anyway, these guys (American - obviously!) really seemed to have their heads screwed on right, and the one thing that has always stuck with me is their little gem "You're never upset for the reason you think you are."
Think about that for a moment, in any given situation where you feel stressed or emotional or angry etc. Stop! And just hypothesise for a moment, just as an experiment, and say to yourself "I'm not [stressed, upset, angry] because of this. That will then lead you on to consider what you might actually be stressed, upset or angry about. I know it sounds all floopy and new age 'hey, just get in touch with your inner self' etc. but give it a go and see. You might be surprised.
If you want to read more about Layne & Paul go to: www.paulandlayne.com
Be Inspired
Stu
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This appears to be a long way of reiterating the old adage: An argument with a spouse is never about the thing being argued over...
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, I did wonder the other day just why I got so mad when a canary-yellow, knob-end on a bicycle gestured at me for apparently sticking the nose of my car too far into a junction, but maybe that was just because I'd watched him go through a red light half a second earlier...dick!