Do you suffer from the 'Feelback' Loop?

Hiya,

Huh? 'Feel'back loop - what am I talking about?

We've all heard of a feedback loop - the cause creates the effect which creates the cause which creates the effect etc. etc.
Well maybe we experience something similar through our feelings.

If you've ever studied the Law of Attraction you might have become a little frustrated that whatever you tried to manifest never actually showed up.
Much of the wisdom that came out after The Secret spoke about the 'missing' part: Action.
That's right, The Law of Attraction requires ACTION.

However, me and my other half were talking whilst walking our dogs this morning and we concluded that how we feel about something will actually have the greatest impact on whether we'll take the required action in order to manifest it.

For instance, she wants a Volvo V50 Estate. (It'd be good to put the dogs in!) But suppose every time she sees one she gets the 'feeling' that they're too much money, she doesn't need such a big car, she's showing off, - pretty soon she might start feeling: I don't need that car, I'll never afford it anyway, it's too big to drive and I prefer my small car etc. etc.
Then that leads on to: maybe there's a smaller version or cheaper version. Her feelings about the car change her desire to guilt and a sense of shame and a lack of confidence to be able to afford or even drive such a car. This then diminishes the chance of her ever taking the suitable action to GET the car as she's now convinced herself she doesn't want it.

Hey, I'm not like that - I hear some of you shout. I definitely want the thing I'm after!!

I know, I know - the thing is it could all be happening subconsciously.

So, when you have any thoughts about the goals you have set yourself be very aware of the 'feelings' you have about them. Notice any doubts. Root around in the back of you mind a bit and remember - the best tool to getting what you want is to 'act as if' you already have it. Get excited about it. Encourage a sense of achievement that you've already attained it.

Good luck

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

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The Paradox Of Choice

Hiya,

I watched a few videos on TED about choices and how they affect us.

One described our lives in the western world being improved by the
variations of spaghetti sauce available whilst another explained how
our cultural background influenced how successful our choices might be
at making us happier.

The one above leans towards the negative, explaining that too much choice
actually makes our lives worse. However, it is amusing in most part and laugh
out loud funny in other parts (approx. 14:50 mins in I had tears in my eyes!).

If you can spare the 20 mins to watch it I'm sure you'll find it as fascinating,
amusing, interesting and informative as I did - especially if you're in marketing
or product development.

Thank you TED.

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

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Give yourself the chance to fail.

Whoa! What?

I want you to fail at something - on purpose!?

That doesn’t make sense.

Actually, I’m not suggesting that you fail on purpose. I’m suggesting
that you try something that you’ll find really difficult. Something
that if you succeeded you’d really grow. Push yourself - hard! A bit
like yesterday’s guide of stepping outside of your comfort zone today
is about taking that to the nth degree.

So what will happen if you fail? You’ll be able to draw some
inspiration from the fact that you tried, maybe even came close.
Learnt what you might be able to do differently next time in order to
succeed. Realise that taking risks and raising your head above the
parapit drives you forward. If you only attempt things that you’re
pretty sure you can achieve how will you experience something
exciting?

Going for it when others are afraid to or tell you you’re not able
enhances your living experience, it will get your adrenalin pumping
and it will put a smile on your face - once the grimace has worn off.

The world’s leading marketers have a term for failure - they call it
testing! So go and test.

But what if you succeed? Then wow! No more needs to be said.

cheers

Stu

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Take the opportunity today to thank someone unexpectedly! It'll change their day. :)

Hiya,

We all like to be thanked, it shows us that we are appreciated and
valued and probably more fundamentally - noticed!
As we thank another we are sending that person something intangible
and immeasurable. But watch the reaction of the recipient. Some will
smile broadly and some will beam proudly while others will have a more
subtle reaction. A reation there will be though. In sending out that
thanks you will automatically open yourself to recieve it more readily
yourself and therefore feel valued and appreciated aswell.
Get in to the habit of enjoying thanking people and it could turn out
to be one of the easiest ways to positively influence your life and
the lives of those around you. When you search for the opportunity to
thank unexpectedly it will have the biggest impact. It’s second nature
to most people to thank someone if we have the door held open for us
or if someone gives us a lift but find that occurance when someone
does something they don’t expect you to notice. Maybe the postman will
pick up a piece of litter off your front lawn or the shop assistant
might run to fetch that bottle of milk you forgot while you’re at the
checkout. Search for it and you’ll find it and when you do you’ll find
yourself searching for that opportunity all the time.

Have fun looking. :)

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

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Celebrate today - celebrate anything, just celebrate!

Hi there,

We celebrate birthdays and religious holidays and anniversaries and
special days throughout the year, but then slip back in to our
everyday lives 99% of the time. When I was a kid I used to think it
would be great to have Christmas every day - why not? It was fun and
everybody was in a good mood. Obviously, I didn’t realise that what
makes Christmas ‘special’ is that it only happens once a year.
However, there’s nothing to stop us celebrating something else on the
other days. How about - it’s just great to be alive!
I’m not saying celebrate something every day (unless you want to), I’m
saying celebrate ‘any’ day. Just choose something to celebrate because
it’ll lift your mood, or reconnect you with friends, or cheer someone
else up. Here’s a few examples:

Happy Graduation Anniversary
Share A Cuppa Day
Cakes Have No Calories Day
I’ve Completed That Task I’ve Been Doing For Ages Day
A Hot Guy/Girl Smiled At Me Day
It’s Only Two Weeks To My Holiday Day

You get the idea. Have fun with it, then anytime you feel like you
need a special day just create one. :)

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

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Can you turn your perception in to your motivation?

Hiya,

I’m engaged in the Bob Proctor ‘Goal Achiever’s Program’ at the moment
and on one of the audios I’m listening to he spoke about perception.
It supposes that our perception of a situation directly influences our
action in that circumstance. EG: We’d gladly walk across a plank of
wood suspended 6 feet off the ground if there was a £1000 reward at
the other end, but we wouldn’t if the plank were 200 feet off the
ground. Then again, if our child was in a building that was on fire
and that plank bridged the gap between it and a neighbouring building
we would gladly cross it to save them.

I’ve listened to it a few times now and something dawned on me last
night as I was walking one of our dogs; if that’s true, which it seems
obvious that it is, then we can actually use that knowledge to
motivate ourselves more effectively.

Let’s say you have a task to do on your day off. It’s a bit of a dull
task but it needs doing. You might ordinarily decide to leave it and
do it another day and we all know what will happen there - the next
day becomes another day which becomes another day and so on and the
task remains to be done. Now consider that you put it in your mind
that your boss is going to give you a 20% rise if you get that task
completed today. Just think that. You’ll possibly find that actually
motivated you to consider doing the task. Really imagine it’s true,
imagine you just got off the phone with your boss, they were really
pumped up and excited about giving you that raise for completing that
task. Pretty soon you will feel a whole lot more motivated to do it.

Note: Keep the perception positive rather than negative, ie: imagine
the boss is going to give you a raise for doing it rather than
imagining he’ll fire you for not doing it. Positive outcomes are much
more compelling and motivational than negative ones.

Try it and see - it’s just a theory!

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

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One of the most powerful things you can teach your kids.

Hiya,

What did we learn at school? What are our kids learning at school?

Basically as far as I can determine, they are learning to ‘follow’
established lines of thought, ‘follow’ existing strategies and
formulas, ‘follow’ what the teacher says. They’re then marked on how
well they have followed.

I remember getting into heated arguments with my daughter whilst
trying to help her with Maths homework. She was learning a new way of
doing multiplication, division etc. and I only knew the way I had
learned. I showed her how to get the correct answer using my ‘old
school’ formula but she became upset and angry because she would be
marked down if she didn’t do it the new way.

Now, learning in these ways has it’s uses of course, BUT, it doesn’t
teach how to think. How to reason. How to invent. And that’s where we
were all let down and how our kids are still being let down.

I suggest that one of the most valuable skills you can nurture in your
children is resourcefulness. A good chunk of their adult life will be
dedicated to accumulating resources, yet resources in themselves have
no intrinsic value. If you lose them or use them they’re gone! But if
you are resourceful you can replenish them indefinitely. Being
resourceful is a key skill of the successful. If you want your
children to grow up to be successful, emotionally, financially,
socially and in any other way then they will need to be resourceful.

Start today, here’s a head start just to get your own resourceful gear engaged:

http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Resourceful

http://www.illuminatedmind.net/2010/07/13/how-be-resourceful/

http://www.ehow.com/how_2251619_be-resourceful.html

for now

Be Inspired

Stu

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http://thechangeyourlifeblog.wordpress.com